Feeling lost, apathetic, or stuck in an existential funk? This episode breaks down 10 research-supported practices that reliably increase meaning and purpose—no religion required. You’ll learn how engaging on purpose, acting by your core values, designing rituals, serving others, and cultivating awe can re-train reward systems in the brain so life feels worth showing up for again. We also map what therapists can help with and where you’ll need to take the lead yourself.
You’ll hear why some modalities (e.g., ACT, logotherapy, narrative work) tend to help with existential distress while others can miss the mark, plus practical prompts like the “best possible life” writing exercise, prosocial connection, and body-based practices to get your prefrontal cortex back online. We contrast philosophical vs psychological nihilism, explain the role religion often plays, and show how to build purpose from the ground up—staying honest about reality while improving your day-to-day experience.
Resources:
No Nonsense Spirituality: All the Tools No Belief Required:
What Is The Void:
Religious Deconstruction:
All My Available Courses:
Video Chapters:
00:00 Intro
01:00 Define Purpose
01:46 Religion’s Offer
02:30 Mormon Purpose
03:15 Meaning Debate
04:03 Three Perspectives
04:50 Delusional Defined
05:39 Religion Evidence
06:28 Bridging Approaches
07:19 The List Begins
08:06 Engage Intentionally
08:53 Knitting Example
09:40 Live Your Values
11:20 Tiny Value Acts
12:13 Auschwitz Test
13:07 CBT Limits
14:03 Best Life Vision
14:51 Writing Study
15:44 Taking Risks
16:31 Therapist Tools
17:21 Keep Philosophy
18:06 Purpose Now
19:02 Serve Others
19:56 Give to Others
20:51 Action Required
21:40 Build Rituals
22:49 Why Rituals Work
23:38 Rituals in Therapy
24:26 Stop Doom Loop
25:10 Body Matters
26:00 Mind–Body Coherence
26:57 Philosophy First
27:44 Health as Values
28:28 Chocolate Note
29:13 Support Coaches
30:02 Stop Ruminating
30:47 Shift Question
31:36 Cultivate Purpose
32:26 Reframe in Therapy
33:18 Awe Matters
34:20 Psychedelic Note
35:14 Brain Flexibility
36:05 Find Community
36:50 Cobble Belonging
37:51 Community Shows Up
38:43 Keep Learning
39:42 Info vs Growth
40:32 Change Behavior
41:29 Religion as Tech
42:19 Meaning Crisis
43:10 Personal Arc
43:57 Freedom Frame
44:47 Engagement First
45:36 Current Outlook
46:28 You’re Already Here
47:30 Determinism Thought
48:23 Enjoy Existence
49:19 Next Parts Teaser
50:10 Autism Note
50:59 Close Call
51:57 Qualia Point
52:50 Final Message
53:24 Sign-Off
#meaning #nihilism #purpose #therapy
About Me:
Britt Hartley is a certified atheist spiritual director with a Master’s in Theology focusing on the future of American religion. She wrote the bestselling book *No Nonsense Spirituality: All the Tools, No Faith Required*. If you’re struggling with existential crises, nihilism, or feeling lost in meaninglessness. On this channel you’ll find weekly videos where Britt provides practical, science-based tools to help you navigate the void. Instead of relying on old gods or New Age trends, she offers clear, actionable advice for finding your way through the deep, challenging questions of life.
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You'll be my morning sermon from now on
Omg I'm so glad your channel stumbled upon me, I'm a very analytical person too and have been through a deconstruction of my 29 year Christianity journey and am now more aware of all that you're talking about in this video, but the way you've related the information and worded it all is so helpful. I feel so seen and heard. Thank you!!
This is just plain silliness. The reason Nihilism feels so terrible psychologically is because that meaninglessness is exaclty that… Meaningless.
Attempting to create meaning out of the meaninglessness is simply lying to yourself and lying only goes so far. Reality will come back and nail you in the face and remind you that your knitting is meaningless as well as your life.
These 10 go to's backed by the enlightenemnt tradition of putting Science as the top shelf way of accumulating knowledge will only only last so long before the flood gates of meaninglessness take over. It will simply delay the inevitable. The science, too, is meaningless, btw, under this modal given to us by those "enlightened" thinkers.
"It feels like oxygen when you live it and it feels suffocating when you betray it." You're great with words.
One of my faves. I saved it for a rewatch.
You have been so incredibly helpful. I cannot thank you enough
I’m convinced society, specifically the US, is not entirely ready for atheism. The transition must be organic and generational. Pulling back on the rubber band too far too fast may be too damaging to the part of the collective conscience that is currently religion. The need for naturalism and spirituality (in the proper doses…whatever that means) to coexist as a necessary cognitive dissonance that any healthy, reasonable, rational, humanist, mature theists AND atheists should be able to agree on as generally good for well-being. They would also readily agree that societies are dynamic and complex systems that absolutely require ethical, moral update over time. Of course, I prefer naturalism to be in the driver’s seat (march of progress), but I reserve the right to change my mind, like a rheostat knob, as I see nihilism or fundamentalism start misbehaving.
You should be invited on Diaries of CEO, you are giving a lot of valuable insights
All I get from anything on this subject is distract yourself so the brain doesn't have time to think, make an identity from those distractions and hope you find people that validate that identity
The title of this video really should be "Scientifically Proven Delusions for the Cryptoreligious."
"you dont have to gaslight yourself into believing anything" I needed to hear that
I have recently discovered your work and I love what you do! I was born into a catholic family, but when my dad left my mom for another woman my mom got excomunicated for it. She was allowed to continue to go to church but only so I could receive communion. Of course we left that church, and a frind of my mom introduced us to a mega community church in Fort Worth Texas. It was weird at first but I was all in. I read the Bible went to every event I could and preached The Word shamelessly. Despite an episode of sexual abuse from a youth pastor I continued to faithfully follow the teachings of Christ. (Something I still do to this day). I had some doubts but pushed it all aside to remain a faithful follower, and felt a calling to be a Soldier in the US Army. It was during Desert Storm where I lost my faith when I realized everyone from this part of the world will be born and die without receiving Christ which meant they were all going to hell. That was too much for me. It was when I discovered Taoism that I was able to fill the large void that was left after I "lost my soul" from losing everything I had once believed.
Therapist usually don't know anything about meta-narratives.
Accepting death, accepting chance, accepting suffering all that is good old, bona fide spirituality topics. How that aligns with the political question: what to reject? is also important for me of the question for me.
Keltner was in my doctoral comitee, he's great, awe is great ❤
Dr Diego
I’m so glad I came across your channel. I think you’ve really hit the nail on the head on so many issues — for example, the confusion around terminology across different disciplines (like “delusion” in mental health versus in philosophy).
Something that has helped me for a long time is the work of Alan Watts. His Buddhist-inspired perspective — that our consciousness is one way for the Universe to experience itself — has been especially meaningful to me. In his book Out of Your Mind, there’s a wonderfully clear explanation of this idea (especially in Chapter 5, “The Web as a Trap”). It makes me think that when we eat an animal, we are, in a sense, both the one eating and the one being eaten.
Another thing that has helped me is keeping a sense of humour — not taking existence too seriously. As Monty Python says in The Life of Brian: “Always look on the bright side of life.
I love having conversations like this. Deep conversations. It is interesting to me that my husband hears you and seemingly feels triggered that his perception of your content is criticism of supernatural and spirituality. I don't know how to explain better that you are explaining many internal ruminations I have had, especially also being an exmo. I left 20 years ago. I've learned enough to stop believing in anything "woo-woo" for a lack of better term than I can think of now.
oh my god when you said 50% of your clients have autism .. thank you
Then why are you a Muslim now?
48:06 ❤AWOMAN ! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
The information you gave in this episode was fantastic. I listened to it twice
46:05 😂😂😂 man I laughed 🤣🤣
But also, if you see this, thank you for the work you are doing, it is so important. And I just noticed, your timestamps are next level 😁👏👏👍
52:39 ❤️❤️❤️
Your videos helped introduce me to a framework for understanding life I can subsribe to without feeling like I'm gaslighting myself, as I have often felt in religion and therapy. I'm considering becoming a therapist who can incorporate an understanding of philosophical nihilism to help people who are "stuck" in this way. I appreciated your comments on the potential shortfalls of therapy in this situation/what modalities may be helpful. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
In my opinion, ;
Purpose is not a goal to be attained nor a status to be earned, but the disciplined practice of living in mindful awareness of the present moment. To act from authenticity—guided by moral integrity and a principled inner compass—is to remain anchored in reality rather than lost in abstraction or conditioned habit. In such lived presence, one encounters experience directly, and the natural consequence is a return to the true Self: the non-dual God from which individuality appears as a partition of experience. Yet this return is not the objective. The objective is the sustained realization of conscious awareness itself, wherein, through authentic presence and intuitive alignment, one inherently recognises that the self is an expression of God-Source and that each seeming choice is a movement toward the realisation of true communion with what one has always been
‘Not being able to care about my body, bc what’s the point if I don’t have a reason to live’….THIS.
This explains so much of my mental paralysis when it comes to my physical health. I’ve ignored my weight for years and everyone always wondered why when I was smart and creative and talented, etc. It’s not like I was incapable of doing something about it. But after leaving Mormonism, I had no sense of myself. The only protection from existential terror I had, was numbing with food and emotional intellectualizing. I ,too, live in my head almost exclusively. I’m a writer, artist, gamer, reader. But ask me to go on a walk or to the beach or anywhere I have to be present in my body to function, and I just mentally jelly-legs. I used to be a dancer in high school. I was strong and confident and was self possessed, at least for my age at the time. Now, I’m so far from who I used to be. But I’ve been putting the cart before the horse it seems. Getting my head on straight and finding out my WHY before dealing with the who, what, when and where, is what I’ve been missing ❤
How timely this video is for me. My girlfriend told me I need to watch this video months ago, but I put it off. I was also raised Mormon, but since leaving I've felt listless and without anchoring. I've been in therapy for years and it has done a lot to help, but it hasn't really helped hit this topic. I lost my job this year and I've struggled to find work. And now given the state of the country, there's been a lot of "what's the point" going on in my head. I even had the same thought train last week about evolution and how my existence boils down to billions of years of evolution pressuring me to recreate, and that's it. I don't have children so I've failed even at that "purpose". Thanks for sharing on this topic, it has been really helpful in giving me some renewed perspective and it's helpful to hear it from another ex-mo. I've watched a lot of Dr. K as well, this has helped connect a lot of what I know about therapy (having done a lot of studying on the topic) and my own lived experience. I don't believe in any kind of higher power either, nothing guiding my life, but it is nice the circumstances have lead me here to this video. Thanks for what you're doing!
I think this video has the potential to help me. Thank you. I’ve been struggling with nihilism for a long time. Even when I was Mormon, I struggled with finding meaning. What was the point of eternal increase? Create more people so they could suffer? What was the point of the celestial kingdom as a woman? It sounded like hell, not heaven.
They tell you that if you have a Why you can manage the How. They don't tell you how to find a Why.
I would love to experience awe. It is one of the few experiences I have left undone. I once had a friend ask me doesn't the size of the universe make me feel insignificant. I laughed. I have always felt that way.
I was introduced to you recently through facebook reels, and I was impressed with your knowledge and studies in philosophies. This is my first youtube video of yours, largely trying to understand nihilism better. I am impressed that you don't appear narcissistic and don't hesitate to reveal to your followers that you have had difficult and traumatic experiences that you have accepted and overcome. Thank you. I will continue to explore your videos.
I posted your video on philosophical leanings in various comedians, and was impressed that you actually asked for critique of your thoughts. So I wrote a post in fb discussing my ideas and experiences in narcissism and hedonism and how they differ, and asked my fb friends to comment on the post. To my surprise, I got no(0) response, no likes, no comments. I wondered, does this mean most, or all, of my fb friends are narcissists or hedonists and did not dare to expose themselves to themselves or others?
You forget that we don’t have free will
Best explanation of getting with yourself in life to date! Thank you 😊
when I say, "thank you for putting in the effort to make your work accessible," I mean that from the depths of the oscillations fueling my mitochondria
I too, question the ethics of being alive ❤
I decided to take Math seriously and learning about it from scratch and in my own pace and now I realise that that is what has been getting me through this period in my life where I don't know what I want to study exactly because of what you describe: I am mentally and physically unable to choose something that doesn't align with my values.
I knew it was because of that but I felt validated right now. Normally I just push those thoughts away and try to convince myself that choosing anything that allows financial stability and I can tolerate in the long run is good enough for me but then I always ended up spiraling to the point of paralysis and constant googling about jobs, careers, universities, etc.
I still don't know what I want to study and I'm running out of time tho lol
Edit: I just finished the video and realised that my career seeking was just plain rumination and I needed to stop it. Like you said, purpose is something you do actions towards, not something you think towards. I have spent so much time worrying about finding the perfect career and I could obviously never find it. I think I will just continue my path of learning math and see where it takes me.